Our key power is in the deep nature of our hearts to care for one another. Our care and love is expounded by the power of our minds to understand our true identity and true happiness. True happinness is made possible by true love. Our true love and inspired minds are the key in transforming our world.
Our True Identity and Our True
Happiness
First we have to
understand our true identity. We start with our core identities: we are a
person of great worth (conscious human being (or God's child, as many of us
believe), we have great intellect and good will. We affirm this to ourselves
and to each other - this is the basis of our deep respect, deep love, moral sense and strong
self-confidence.
As we live our lives
and move on with our relationships, these moments, usually mundane, are
opportunities for extending appreciation and encouragement to deepen further
our love and happiness and to inspire us to reach our greatest potential.
We take interest and notice any improvement of what I call our external
identities (our looks, education, skill level and reputation or integrity). We appreciate and inspire each other to achieve the great
potential of our core identities.
We look at the other
person in the eye and affirm this person's core identity, we appreciate, we
encourage and we express our love. We give our love and appreciation
without any condition except that we want this person to be happy. We pause,
we talk clearly and slowly, we hug, kiss, shake hands, we make them feel the
warmth of our love. We look for appropriate moments and appropriate
response, sometimes our smile, a simple note, few words or a simple gesture is
enough.
The key here is we
act, we give our love. We don't wait for the other person, or when
we feel better. We start giving love, we ignite all hearts we
encounter and we will see it spread around like wildfire.
Some of us might be
in unique situations where it is not easy to give our love or even receive
love. We may need to escape from the wrong opinion of ourselves. We may
think or consent to what other people think that our current external identity
is the basis of our self-worth. Far from it. In this case, we first make
sure that we love ourselves. We look at ourselves in the mirror and do
the same process. It may sound crazy but remember, we are at the verge of
breaking our limiting paradigm and it may take few attempts to get out of this
invisible prison.
The Dynamics of our Love and Happiness
True love also is
loving one another the way our heart is designed to love and the way our love
is designed to make us deeply happy.
When our heart is
used other than to love another person (we love things, or we hate), we have
big problems and we are not happy.
When our love is used
other than to make other hearts happy (we love with conditions, we are buying
our love, love is transactional, no net worth, love is temporary - there is no
real love), we have problems and we are not truly happy.
When our heart is
unloved and unhappy, we have problems. (we don't want to be sad, we buy our
happiness).
When we stop loving
altogether, we have big problems (we don't care, we are selfish).
When our heart and
our love is misused, we are not happy and it brings out our weaknesses - we
don't care, we can lie, we can steal and we can destroy.
Strong Purpose and Clear Vision
Strong Purpose and Clear Vision
Understanding this key power is a deep understanding of ourselves
and others. If we have not yet done so,
we summon the deep convictions of our upbringing or the examples of great people
(read their autobiographies or see their TED talks) then see the state of our
world around us or around the world and call that strong passion and vision that
will help transform ourselves and our world.
This strong purpose and vision gives us great courage and inspiration
and will transcend all the little worries of our lives and devote more of our
energy to bring real happiness to ourselves and to our world.
The Key to Transforming Our World
This is why our heart and our mind
is the key. Our need to be deeply happy is the unseen human need that is as essential as water and
air. When we harness our true love and happiness and our true purpose and vision, our energized hearts
and minds will transform our personal lives, our family, community, our nation
and our global home. I believe our world is barely surviving with just
enough energized hearts and minds. We need to energize more to
effectively and efficiently make our systems work and transform our world.
We don't have to be
sad, we don't have to be weak. We have our love, we have our
relationships, we have our family, relatives and friends. Our global
family needs help.
We start giving our
love, we start energizing hearts, we start inspiring minds. We have the
power to hope and trust. We have the power to discover and
innovate. We have the power to transform our world.
Dear Joe,
ReplyDeleteI have read a big part of your blog, and I will try to address what I saw in it.
Some of these ideas are truths, for example the fact that human beings are noble by nature and divine heritage, that the persona people mistake with themselves is not their true identity. You are right that people can find joy, happiness and fulfillment in relationships. You are right that love and the heart is the key. These are some basic truths in which everyone agrees in the heart. And these are the truths to build on. It matters what we believe in, and it matter for what we believe in to be true. This I agree on fully.
Most of your other ideas though are ideas only. You are enthusiastic in spreading them. Maybe your enthusiasm can be taken over from you by others. Maybe your idealism can help people believe in the possibility of better world. But without the love that is substantial, it all stays in the realms of ideas only. And you can’t eat ideas.
Real love is for others. Love is making other people feel loved and cared for, and those things change all the time for each and every one. If you don’t pay close attention to the needs of others in real time (especially in the emotional terms), you can end up giving a person a warm blanket in the middle of the summer, so to speak. Well, thanks for the gift, but why did you think I need it? Sometimes people need a kiss, sometimes they need a kick, and sometimes they need a tissue because they just sneezed. Love can be described as the readiness for others, attention and willingness to be there for them and meet their needs. For others to feel loved one needs to be tuned to them, and respond to them. Ideas are actually standing in the way of seeing what is really needed in a given situation.
Without real attention to other people, being more energized is not being more loving, it is just getting hyped-up on something. It is madness, not love.
Love,
Eva
Thank you my dear Eva for understanding my ideas. Since we don't know each other yet personally, it seems that all I have so far is ideas and you are right when you said that ideas alone is not sufficient. As you noted that ideas are actually standing in the way in our real-time response to love and care for one another, it is precisely my hope that presenting clear ideas can help clear the way. I may not always be clear to all people but I'm learning also as I go along.
ReplyDeletePerhaps there's a better word for "energized hearts and minds". I may have been trying to sound naively scientific but all I meant is expounding our great capacities to understand and love. Love as you duly noted, that pays close attention first to ourselves, our family, our friends then with all its great impact towards all our brothers and sisters in this world.
If you can see me as madly in love with you and also as madly in love with all our brothers and sisters of this world, then I'm glad to suffer this verdict.